I've been both of these, unfortunately...but the most important thing is which one I am currently! I can't change past words or actions, but I can choose my actions NOW!
I challenge you to CHOOSE positivity even in the most negative of situations, CHOOSE love even you feel like you have none left to give, CHOOSE forgiveness when it seems as though it is impossible. Think it's too difficult to rise to the challenge??? If you try being a stepping stone alone, you will end up sinking in the mud. Call upon the Lord to be your foundation!